Working with Personality Type—Part 1: Extraversion versus Introversion
I thought I would write about some basic ways to work with personality differences. These are simple things to think about, but they can be quite effective in your interactions with colleagues, friends, and family. Let me know if you have any additional suggestions.
Suggestions for people with a preference for Extraversion: If someone is walking away while you are talking to him, stop where you are. Give him some space both physically and verbally. Also, think about pausing after you ask a question. Try counting silently for 10 seconds before asking the question again in a different way. Also, try not to misinterpret it when someone doesn’t seem as engaged as you are.
Suggestions for people with a preference for Introversion: When someone asks you a question, sometimes your best response is, “Give me a minute to think about it.” That way, the person knows she has been heard. Work on paraphrasing and leaning forward for people who need more immediate communication. Remember, when a person with a preference for Extraversion interrupts you while you are speaking, it may just mean she is really interested in the discussion she is having with you. As someone with a preference for Introversion, I tend to close down when I’m interrupted. Instead, I need to try to stay in the conversation by interjecting (interrupting back) or at least to let the other person know to expect additional thoughts from me later that day.
Be sure to check out the Introduction to Type® and Communication booklet.
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