The Platinum Rule
I was recently involved in a “discussion” with a “friend” of a friend on Facebook. This person could not understand the value of treating people how they want to be treated—the Platinum Rule. He was only at the place of treating people how he wanted to be treated. I knew better than to try to lecture him on the “wisdom” of my ways. One person’s wisdom is another’s mystery…or should that be misery? Anyway, I was reminded of Isabel Briggs Myers’ ideas and the MBTI instrument.
The MBTI tool follows the premise that in order to understand the world and then make meaningful decisions based on that understanding, we need to take into account all perspectives. Doing this requires us to flex (not change) our type. It means never using type as an excuse. It means trusting that people who are different from us have something important to contribute.
I challenge myself and I challenge you to seek out people who are different from you and try to really understand who they are. Stay open to their point of view instead of trying only to defend yours. Throw out “my way or the highway” and instead remember that “my way and your way builds highways.”