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Extraverted Sensing Stories

Nov 4, 2010 in MBTI Talk | 0 comments

I envy those people who can stay in the moment. As a beginning student of meditation, I’ve learned that being in the here and now is invaluable. On a trip to Japan, I visited a temple outside the small town of Ikoma. I was admiring the writings of one of the monks, when he came over and offered it to me. I couldn’t read it, but was told by my Japanese interpreter it read, “Learn to appreciate the moment.” Was it coincidence or did this monk somehow know what a challenge that is for me? People who prefer and use Extraverted Sensing tend not to have that problem. They see and experience the world right here and right now. My friend Steve (ISTP) uses Extraverted Sensing as part of his auxiliary function. It is amazing to watch him drive down the road noticing anything and everything as we zoom by. I might notice a new building that has suddenly popped up. Surprised that I hadn’t noticed it earlier, Steve will point out that he has noticed every step of the building’s development. I will admit that I can get frustrated with Steve’s hesitancy to plan things in the future. Still, I’m impressed by his ability to concentrate on what is happening right...

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Introverted Sensing Stories

Nov 2, 2010 in MBTI Talk | 0 comments

I’m fascinated whenever I see Introverted Sensing when we take in information. I was chatting with my partner Kevin just the other day. The television was on, and some reference was made to The Brady Bunch. I asked Kevin if he watched that show when he was younger. He proceeded to cover the most detailed recollection of an event I have ever heard. While I could only recall general moods and themes, Kevin’s detail over the seasons that show ran were astonishing. How he could remember each character and actor who played that character, along with details of the episodes, seemed like magic. I glanced over to see if he was reading it somewhere. I am often reminded that most information I share about my day or my life with Introverted Sensing types will be remembered by and recalled at a moment’s notice. When I ask, “How do you know that?” the reply is most always, “Because you told me.” That said, I realize that when I don’t remember details from people who have a preference for Introverted Sensing, it might make them feel like I wasn’t even...

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The Introverted Trainer

Oct 28, 2010 in MBTI Talk | 21 comments

It’s absolutely true: Any type can do anything. In fact, Isabel Briggs Myers believed it was an advantage for an organization to hire employees with personality types different from those types that most often self-select into specific job roles. We need to remember that personality type is never intended to limit anyone. You might be wondering how someone like me with a preference for Introversion can train groups of people as a full-time job. I’m standing right up in front of people two to three weeks, 10 to 20 days each month. While I will admit to being exhausted at the end of each day, the charge I get from making a difference in people’s lives never fails to renew my energy. You see, I also have preferences for Intuition (taking in information from a big picture perspective) and Feeling (making decisions based on how they affect people). When combined, these preferences explain my interest in encouraging peoples’ development. I make it a point to fuel my preference for Introversion with time alone in the gym each evening, followed by a quiet meal alone or with one or two other people I already know and am therefore comfortable with. I think that my preferences at times actually give me an advantage as a trainer. Recently I was working one-on-one with a participant explaining how to “crack the code” of type dynamics. I asked him to “show me how you understand it.” At first he just gave me a puzzled look. I imagined he was thinking, “If I understood it, I wouldn’t be asking you.” I gave him a large piece of flipchart paper and markers and told him to just give it a try, speaking only to correct or encourage his process. After a few tries, he got it! I said very little, while he talked his way through it (he has a preference for Extraversion). I make it a point to provide time for participants to ask questions in the larger group as well as to ask questions with me one-on-one almost anytime during our four days...

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How the Accommodating Trainer Handles Questioning Behavior

Sep 16, 2010 in MBTI Talk | 2 comments

By noon on day one of the MBTI® Certification Program, I can usually identify those who will show Questioning (in-preference for Thinking and out-of-preference for Feeling) on the MBTI® Step II™ Interpretive Report. As someone who reports and verifies Accommodating (in-preference for Feeling), I sometimes find Questioning behavior to be a challenge. I have to remind myself that I’m not being attacked. “Take a deep breath,” I tell myself. The first chance I get, I look for the MBTI Step II results of the person exhibiting Questioning behavior to see if my hypothesis is right. So far, I’ve been 100% correct. We’ve all seen it in meetings, trainings, gatherings. People who use Questioning behavior to make decisions (remember, the Questioning–Accommodating facet falls under the Thinking–Feeling dichotomy) simply ask a lot of questions. They don’t do it to annoy those of us on the Accommodating side, so we have to try to let that one go. Questioning people need to have their questions answered before they can move on to the next point. As a trainer, I am not doing my job if I ask a person who reports Questioning to hold his or her question for later. Instead, I need to answer that question right away. Now, if it starts to distract from the learning process of the larger group, I may put the question on a parking lot list. However, I need to get back to that question as soon as possible and think about what content the participant may have missed between the time he or she originally wanted to ask the question and the time the question was answered. When Questioning people don’t get their questions answered, they likely will not hear whatever else you have to say. Next: I’ll look at differences between Questioning in-preference and Questioning...

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MBTI® Feedback

Aug 26, 2010 in MBTI Talk | 4 comments

Because giving MBTI® feedback to a client for the first time may seem scary to some participants, I give a demonstration on how it’s done before any of them has to (see MBTI feedback DVD product #6135-DVD at Participants almost always find this module of the program to be extremely valuable. They use this time to test their use of MBTI language, to work on avoiding the use of jargon, and to flex their type to more effectively communicate with people who are different from them…all in a safe environment with just one or two other participants who are also new to the experience. I am always amazed how quickly people pick this up and how well they do. Of course, I don’t expect people to be perfect. I do expect participants to prepare ahead of time and do their best to preserve the ethical use of the MBTI tool. I make it a point to drop in on each feedback group and offer corrective suggestions along the way. There are times when a participant or two get a bit overwhelmed by having to provide feedback in front of their colleagues. I have facilitated MBTI® Certification Programs long enough to know to just trust the process. I do my best to reassure them that it will be okay. I will write more about trusting the process in a future blog. Once the feedback session is completed, the group comes back together to debrief and to share successes and...

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Aug 25, 2010 in MBTI Talk | 2 comments

After a first day of training, I like to spend quiet time, first in the gym and then during a meal somewhere interesting. I’m not picky about the food, but I like to find the special places each city has…best fish ’n chips, barbecue, burgers, pizza, steak, etc. I may write about some of my favorite places sometime…from hole-in-the-walls to fine dining. I tend to like the former more than the latter. By day three, I actually enjoy having a meal with participants from the program. We have all become more comfortable with each other by then, so the “getting-to-know-you” awkwardness has passed. I’ve been taken to some fantastic barbecue places by participants in Kansas City, dollar hamburger night in Tulsa, and South Rim view dining at the Grand Canyon, among many others. The MBTI® Certification Program provides great networking opportunities both during the workshop and...

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The first day

Aug 24, 2010 in MBTI Talk | 4 comments

The first morning has come and gone in a flash. Now more relaxed, participants have placed their names on the MBTI® Type Table posted in the room. As I do the same, they are surprised to learn that I have a preference for Introversion, so I remind them that any type can do anything if the motivation is there. My preferences for Intuition and Feeling lead me to do things that make a difference in people’s lives. While that may sound corny to some, it truly drives me to get out in front of people each week and share information about this amazingly life-altering tool. While participants are at lunch, I take the time to ready the training room for our afternoon activities. Everyone will be up and about the rest of the day…no drowsy after-meal afternoon here! I also set up the teams of participants who will work together the next day providing MBTI feedback to each other (a future blog will have more details about this). After a quick bite, I notice participants starting to wander back in little by little. We start and end the afternoon with one of my favorite activities, one that is perfect for just about everyone wanting to know how they can apply the MBTI instrument with their teams. It’s fun, informative, engaging… And now, time for the first exam. I give everyone a few minutes to review materials and ask any questions they have. I’ve provided a few “examinable moments” throughout the day to help participants focus on a few important points and I notice participants’ focus on those during their review. After the exam, I go over each question and allow time for any needed discussion. That way, participants can get a clarification on the spot and know exactly how they are doing. Day 1 is now over, though I remain in the room in case anyone needs additional...

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The Beginning

Aug 23, 2010 in MBTI Talk | 6 comments

Four full days… It takes a lot of energy and focus to keep up with participants throughout the four-day public MBTI® Certification Program, but the enthusiasm from participants to learn and to be part of this amazing experience fuels me each day. We start off as a group of 10, 15, 20 strangers in a room. Many are from the city in which the program is being held…Kansas City, Austin, Los Angeles, Nashville, New Orleans…while others (like me) have traveled a day to be here. As people walk into the room, I make it a point to walk around and introduce myself to each person individually. This is an example of how I need to flex, since I tend to be Receiving and not Initiating (MBTI® Step II™ facets, covered on day 4 of the program). I know that by the final day we will all be comfortable with each other, but I still feel a bit nervous as I express my opposite preference one person at a time around the room. People find their seats, say a polite “hello” to their table mates and look up to me at the front of the room with “What happens next?” anticipation. We start at 8:30. The room seems a bit quiet and tense as I go over our agenda for the next four days. When I talk about the exams that will be administered each day, the tension increases a bit more. I make sure to let participants know that the exams are not easy but that they are fair. “I will work with you fully each day and give you any time you need from me each evening to help you,” I tell the group. Before learning how to facilitate, I attended as a participant in more MBTI Certification Programs than probably anyone in the world, so I know what it feels like to be in their shoes. I offer a smile and reassurance that this will be an exciting, challenging, and fun four days. Let’s begin! For information on how to become MBTI® Certified, go to...

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