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The Labyrinth

Aug 20, 2015 in MBTI Talk | 0 comments

After breakfast Kevin and I went for a silent walk down to the labyrinth. This was our second trip to this magical place. The idea of making a pilgrimage to God is beautiful to me. I wanted to dance along the path but will save that for when I’m there by myself. This time I was joined by Kevin and a nun. A large rabbit bounced around up the hill, stopping every now and then to look back at us. Several squirrels and birds fluttered about. God was all around me, leading me to want to flutter too. What can I say? I‘m a “flutterer.” If you have never visited a labyrinth, I recommend you give it a try. I use a labyrinth walk as a way to silently reflect and think through any problem I might be facing or to work through a decision I’m stuck on or a situation I’m trying to figure out. Today, I used it to find meaning for the reading recommended to me by my spiritual director. I use my NF preferences naturally and comfortably. During a labyrinth walk I also remind myself to add “flavors” of ST (details, facts, and logic) to bring more balance to the decisions I’m making. Of course, you don’t need a labyrinth to do this. If you need help learning how to make more balanced decisions, check out the MBTI® Decision-Making Style Report. Want to read more? Check out my previous blogs in this series: A New Day Take a Deep Breath and Jump The Agony Airplane Mode Restless Sleep—Too Much Silence? I Walk in Peace to Find My Path Expectations Going Non-Stop Getting Away from It...

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A New Day

Aug 18, 2015 in MBTI Talk | 0 comments

Walking into the dining room this morning for breakfast, I had this slight urge to yell out, “Good morning, everyone!” Of course, I didn’t, but I did wonder if a person could get kicked out of a silent retreat for doing that. Looking around the room catching quick glances at the other retreatants, I started to imagine their stories. Eating silently were men and women of all ages and ethnicities. A few nuns were in the group. I have always admired the nuns in my life since I attended a Catholic university for my undergraduate studies, which was founded by the Sisters of the Incarnate Word. As I scanned the room while letting loose my preference for Intuition, I thought of my mother and the need to see her sooner than I am scheduled. My spiritual director asked me to think about where in the world I see God—these people around me today, the sky outside, the hawk flying fast and high, the food on my plate. Letting my preference for Intuition continue on its magic carpet ride, I even thought of a play I could write titled Silence or Retreatants about two people who fall in love at a silent retreat. Of course, all the lines would come from the monologue happening inside each character’s mind (done so brilliantly in the recent Pixar movie Inside Out—so much for my novel idea). Want to read more? Check out my previous blogs in this series: Take a Deep Breath and Jump The Agony Airplane Mode Restless Sleep—Too Much Silence? I Walk in Peace to Find My Path Expectations Going Non-Stop Getting Away from It...

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Take a Deep Breath and Jump

Aug 13, 2015 in MBTI Talk | 0 comments

The day is coming to an end. I met my spiritual director today. She was very kind, very considerate. After a day of silence I found myself feeling lonely. It was nice to get to talk to someone. She was so wonderful to talk to, which made it even more special. The grounds of the retreat center offer lots of places to walk, pray, and meditate. While my preference for Introversion definitely makes sense, when it comes to taking in information, I do that in the extraverted world (extraverted Intuition is the auxiliary or second mental process for INFP). I’ve found it hard ever since I arrived last night not to explore possibilities out loud. Taking a deep breath and then watching what others are doing helped a lot today. The day was spent reading, writing, walking, praying, eating, and napping. That’s a good day, though I’m not sure how eight days in a row will go. Kevin and I appear to be the only couple of any kind here. I’m aware of that and have made it a point not to give him too much eye contact. We give each other the occasional hand signal for “walk” or “eat,” but otherwise we are not communicating. Usually when we eat quietly, one of us has something to talk about (we both have a preference for Introversion and prefer to reflect before bringing up important topics). Here, everyone in the dining hall, and everywhere else, is completely quiet. Not a peep from anyone. It feels strange to hear only the clink of dishes. Someone whispered, “Excuse me,” as she was putting her dishes away before quickly looking down and moving away. That’s the most interaction I had with another retreatant, besides my spiritual director, since our silence began yesterday. Want to read more? Check out my previous blogs in this series: The Agony Airplane Mode Restless Sleep—Too Much Silence? I Walk in Peace to Find My Path Expectations Going Non-Stop Getting Away from It...

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The Agony

Aug 11, 2015 in MBTI Talk | 2 comments

I’m in my room after an early morning breakfast. Kevin, my partner, came by, and we walked over to the dining hall in silence. His sweet smile greeted me as we started the day. We ate with not a word between us, as did everyone else in the dining hall. It felt odd and nice at the same time. I didn’t have to fill space with words with anyone at all. I talk for a living and love what I do, but I also need a break from that, and today I’ve started that break. After breakfast Kevin gave me the “Do you want to go for a walk?” sign. In case you are curious, that sign is two fingers moving back and forth like little legs. We walked behind and to the left of Rossi Chapel. The path took us up and around St. Joseph’s Hall, in front of and then to the side of St. Robert’s Hall, and then to “The Agony in the Garden.” We took the steps down to a bench, where we sat silently. The statue of Jesus kneeling a few feet away was framed by green and blue and white from the trees and sky and clouds. It was a cool morning, as the sun was still low. Two deer passed by nonchalantly but then with more urgency as they spotted us. Want to read more? Check out my previous blogs in this series: Airplane Mode Restless Sleep—Too Much Silence? I Walk in Peace to Find My Path Expectations Going Non-Stop Getting Away from It All...

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Airplane Mode

Aug 6, 2015 in MBTI Talk | 2 comments

It’s just past six in the morning. I can hear a few noises, but otherwise it’s quiet out. This will be my first full day at the retreat center. Funny, as soon as I woke, I reached for my phone to check the time (6:03 a.m.) and then to check email, Facebook, the news, etc. Then I realized (luckily before I actually checked) that I won’t be doing any of that for the next eight days. I put my phone on “airplane” mode so I couldn’t receive anything new. Of course, I could always switch it back…but I’m hoping I won’t! We shall see. Want to read more? Check out my previous blogs in this series: Restless Sleep—Too Much Silence? I Walk in Peace to Find My Path Expectations Going Non-Stop Getting Away from It All...

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Restless Sleep—Too Much Silence?

Aug 4, 2015 in MBTI Talk | 0 comments

I didn’t sleep well my first night here. My room was fine—I just didn’t sleep well. But that doesn’t mean I didn’t dream. In one dream I was in a room with several people. I was trying to sleep (in the dream), but they were all talking. I kept “shhh”-ing them. I wanted to say, “Be quiet,” but I felt like that would be violating my vow of silence. I then found myself in a small bed next to a large tree, and again people were nearby laughing and talking. Again, “Shhh!” from me. It didn’t help. It’s interesting that my first night of silence was filled with so much noise. It was all inside my head, and that can be the loudest noise of all. I clearly need some quiet in my life. Let’s see if I get it. Want to read more? Check out my previous blogs in this series: I Walk in Peace to Find My Path Expectations Going Non-Stop Getting Away from It...

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I Walk in Peace to Find My Path

Jul 30, 2015 in MBTI Talk | 2 comments

Tonight begins my silent retreat. The stress of getting here still weighs on me, as I lie in my small bed, slightly hungry from not arriving in time for dinner. My room, though not located below a church down a dark hallway as I had imagined, is small and relatively bare—night-and-day difference from the business hotel I left earlier today. The cross on the wall to my right and the framed picture of Jesus are the only adornments. It is time to sleep…may I find peace. Want to read more? Check out my previous blogs in this series: Expectations Going Non-Stop Getting Away from It All  ...

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Expectations

Jul 28, 2015 in MBTI Talk | 2 comments

When Kevin and I signed up for the silent retreat, he expected to receive a detailed agenda of what each day of the retreat would cover. Kevin has preferences for ISFJ and really likes details and schedules. Instead, the email that arrived included only the most basic information: when we should arrive, when orientation would begin, when meals would happen, and when the retreat would end. He looked at me and said, “That’s all?” I smiled and thought, that is more than enough. For someone like me (INFP preferences) who has spent a lot of time lately on a schedule, eight days of “openness” with only a general idea of mealtime sounds like the prefect getaway. We start this week. After a few days into it I might have a different perspective. Stay tuned… Want to read more? Check out my previous blogs in this series: Going Non-Stop Getting Away from It All  ...

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Going Non-Stop

Jul 23, 2015 in MBTI Talk | 2 comments

I’ve spent the past four weeks straight delivering MBTI® Certification Programs. I’ve worked with amazing people in the auto, hospitality, and military sectors, and I feel so lucky to do the work that I do. And yet, there are times when I need a break from all the expectations I place on myself—expectations to be an expert, to be available, to be patient. These past few weeks have meant literally only hours at home before heading off again to new locations for the week. Fortunately, my partner is very patient and on occasion can even travel with me. This week he has joined me in Scottsdale, Arizona. Next week we will be together at our first-ever weeklong silent retreat. What will that experience be like? What I’ve read about silent retreats is that you simply “show up and shut up.” True, my preference is for Introversion, but of course that doesn’t mean that I don’t talk. Considering type dynamics, all of us have a part of ourselves that we extravert and a part that we introvert. With my preferences for INFP, I extravert Intuition when taking in information and introvert Feeling when I make decisions. To learn more about this subject, check out Introduction to Type® Dynamics and Development. To be...

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Getting Away from It All

Jul 21, 2015 in MBTI Talk | 8 comments

In this age of email, texting, Facebook, Twitter, and so on, how do we really get away from it all? Sure, we have our weekends and occasionally take vacations, but even then, do we really and truly get away from everything? Even when I take vacation, I still check and respond to email every morning and every night. No one tells me I have to do that. I just do. Perhaps my preference for Feeling plays a role here; I don’t want to let anyone down or have someone think he or she is not important enough for me to respond to right away. The desire to completely get away is what I’ll be exploring in my next blog series. I’ve decided that for the first time in 27 years I’m going to completely get away by going on an 8-day silent retreat. Stay tuned… Want to take a deeper dive into the MBTI® assessment? Check out my last blog post as I explore type dynamics and the extraverted mental...

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