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Aug 21, 2012 in Eye on Edu | 0 comments

Regaining Balance with Insights from MBTI® Type Concepts Written by Patrick L. Kerwin, MBTI® Master Practitioner When your computer is acting all out of whack and nothing you do fixes it, there is one surefire solution: Control + Alt + Delete. Knowing how and when to use this combination of keys can help us take a frustrating situation and return it to normal. The same is true of our personality. When we’re stressed out, it helps to know what to do and when to get back to normal. ISTJ and ISFJ: Take lots of quiet time to reflect. Prioritize what needs to be done, and accomplish a task that is easy for you to complete. INTJ and INFJ: Do something by yourself that engages your senses, like working outside, reading a book, watching a movie, or doing a craft. ISTP and INTP: Take time away from the people or situation causing the stress. Get some alone time. ISFP and INFP: Get out in nature, or do another activity that relaxes you. Spend some alone time reflecting or meditating. ESTP and ESFP: Do an activity you like that distracts you from the stressor. Figure out what needs to be done to address the stressor, and get started on doing it. ENFP and ENTP: Get some space to reflect and refocus. Talk to a close friend. ESTJ and ENTJ: Talk it out with a trusted friend. Engage in physical activity. Take some time alone to think of a new approach to the stressor. ESFJ and ENFJ: Talk to someone who will be supportive. Take some time alone to reflect on the stressor, and to find some other ways to address it. And this one applies to all personality types: Don’t be too hard on yourself. Everyone has out-of-character stress reactions, and you’ll eventually get yourself back to normal. It might take some time, but you’ll get there!  Join us Thursday, November 15th, 2012 for a free Ask an Expert webinar: MBTI® Type and...

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Flipping Out

Aug 20, 2012 in Eye on Edu | 3 comments

Written by Patrick L. Kerwin, MBTI® Master Practitioner There’s no avoiding it: We all occasionally get really stressed out. It’s a normal, typical, unavoidable part of life because we all have times when the situation at hand exceeds our resources—physical, mental, or emotional—for dealing with it. Have you ever noticed, when you’re really stressed out, that you’re just not yourself—in fact, you’re almost the opposite of yourself? There’s a good reason for that. It’s because, when we’re under great stress, our personality type turns itself inside out and “flips” into our opposite type (i.e., the four letters not in our four-letter type code)—but usually not in the greatest way. If you prefer Introversion and get really stressed out, you may flip into Extraversion—but in an exaggerated way, like blurting something out. Or, if you prefer Extraversion, you may flip into Introversion—but in an exaggerated way, like completely withdrawing. Below are descriptions of the 16 types when they’re really stressed out. If you find yourself sounding like the “flip side” description for your type, then you know you’re right in the thick of being stressed out. ISTJ and ISFJ: Under stress, become “The Dramatizer,” catastrophizing about what’s happening. Flip Side Motto: “EVERYTHING is a disaster!” INTJ and INFJ: Under stress, become “The Indulger,” overindulging in anything sensory, like eating, cleaning, or exercising. Flip Side Motto: “I need MORE!” ISTP and INTP: Under stress, become “The Emoter,” being overly sensitive and overly emotional with people they’re close to. Flip Side Motto: “I need to express my FEELINGS!” ISFP and INFP: Under stress, become “The Criticizer,” being negative about others and self. Flip Side Motto: “Everyone’s an IDIOT, including me!” ESFP and ESTP: Under stress, become “The Exaggerator,” worrying about doom-and-gloom scenarios. Flip Side Motto: “Everything is going to go WRONG!” ENFP and ENTP: Under stress, become “The Obsessor,” obsessing about facts and details. Flip Side Motto: “This ONE thing is absolutely important!” ESTJ and ENTJ: Under stress, become “The Martyr,” feeling unloved and unappreciated. Flip Side Motto: “No one APPRECIATES me!” ESFJ and ENFJ: Under stress, become “The Condemner,” being extremely critical and condemning of others and self. Flip Side Motto: “I am SO done with you!”     Join us Thursday, November 15th, 2012 for a free Ask an Expert webinar: MBTI® Type and Stress.    ...

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Sign up for our free 2012-13 Ask an Expert webinars!

Aug 16, 2012 in Eye on Edu | 0 comments

Written by Karen Gonzalez If you are familiar with the Ask an Expert webinar series, you probably know that we began offering these in late 2009. We started with 19 registrations and after our last webinar in April 2012, have grown to over 1,080 registrations! If you are not yet familiar, we offer these webinars as a way to give you application tips, interpretation advice, and to help you learn about different techniques in using the MBTI® and Strong Interest Inventory® assessments.  The point of these is to help you further develop your skills, while you in turn, help your students on their own road to success. This is also your chance to ask our experts questions about the material. And the best part is that they are free. Here is just a snapshot of our new 2012-2013 schedule (Full schedule with descriptions can be found here). Click on each link to learn more and to register:  9/27/12 – Using the iStartStrong™ Report in Academic Advising 10/18/12 –MBTI® Type, Learning Style, and Student Retention 11/15/12 – MBTI® Type and Stress 2/7/13 – MBTI® Type Dynamics and Relationships 3/14/13 – New MBTI® & Strong Products for Enhanced Interpretation Sessions 4/25/13 – Is Professional Networking Just for Extraverts? 5/23/13 – Finding the Best-Fit MBTI® Type View our on-demand webinars as well. We hope you join us for this...

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Off the charts Extrovert

Aug 10, 2012 in Eye on Edu | 0 comments

Written by Catherine Rains Ok, I have to admit that I have used this phrase once or twice in my lifetime, before I knew better!  This phrase can be an accurate way to describe observed behavior; however it is inaccurate when describing someone’s preference for type.  This phrase is often used when someone gets their MBTI® results and their PCI is in the “Very Clear” range, which means they have a long bar in the Extroverted (or toward any of the preferences) direction, or are almost “off the chart”.  This type of person will very often agree with their reported type for Extroversion, and sometimes will describe themselves as an “off the chart Extrovert”.  Although they might exhibit a lot of extroverted behaviors, this is an inaccurate interpretation of their PCI. A high PCI, or long bar, describes clarity or consistency of preference, not how much a person exhibits the behaviors associated with a preference. A very clear PCI (preference clarity index) simply says that this person consistently answered the questions in the direction of Extroversion, and as a result, will more than likely agree with their results (but not always). Although someone may indeed exhibit a lot of extroverted behaviors with a high PCI, the MBTI is not measuring how much they have of this preference, or of behaviors associated with Extroversion.  It simply measures how consistently they answered in one direction over the other.   There are assessments that measure how much extroverted behaviors someone exhibits, but the MBTI assessment is NOT one of them. Other ways to say “off the chart Extrovert” include “I am a strong extrovert” or “he is a huge extrovert” – all  inaccurate in terms of describing MBTI results.  Any other ways you have heard people describe a preference that infers how much someone has of a preference? Ever heard people describe the characteristics for a preference with a phrase that begins with “People who prefer Sensing are good with details and specifics”? We’ll tackle this fun topic next week!...

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Cleaning up our MBTI® language – I am a Thinker?

Jul 31, 2012 in Eye on Edu | 1 comment

Written by Catherine Rains For the next three weeks, we’re going to look at ways to bring our type language into the 21st century. Let’s start with the phrases “I am a Thinker”, or “He is Perceiver” to describe someone’s type preference. I have to admit I am guilty of using these phrases myself, particularly before I become a MBTI® Certification trainer, or even now when I’m talking very fast and just forget the new rules for talking type. Sometimes it just seems natural to use these phrases to describe someone’s preference for a particular dichotomy; however it is now considered outdated. Try this instead – “I have a preference for Thinking”, or “He prefers Thinking”. Why are these phrases considered best practice when describing someone’s preference? When I describe myself as a Perceiver, it implies that this is all I am, putting me in a type box. With type, we always have a choice to flex to the other side, and have skills to use both sides of a preference pair. So I’m not JUST a Perceiver. I prefer Perceiving, and easily and effortlessly exhibit behaviors associated with this preference, but this is not all that I am. I often use behaviors associated with Judging when the situation calls for these skills, and am actually quite talented at doing so. So to describe myself as a Perceiver just isn’t accurate and it implies that this is the totality of who I am. Although hard to get used to at first, this newer phraseology better reflects the philosophy and intent behind using type to improve our everyday interactions. Ever heard the phrases “I am an off the chart Extrovert” or “he is a huge Judger” to describe someone’s preference? Stay tuned for this topic next week as we continue our discussion around cleaning up type...

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One more word about “guessing” type – Part 2

Jul 11, 2012 in Eye on Edu | 0 comments

Written by Catherine Rains From my post last week, I’m certainly not suggesting that we flex to every person we meet, but rather when appropriate to the situation.  Flexing to someone else’s type is simply a tool that helps me to communicate more effectively with others who do not share my dominant and auxiliary functions.  I would be communicating the same message whether I use my dominant and auxiliary or theirs, but my message might be better understood if communicated in the type language of the person in front of me.   It’s important to remember that we all have access to all four functions; however some of the functions will be easier for us to use than others.  I easily and most often use my dominant (1st) and auxiliary(2nd), but I also effectively use my tertiary(3rd) and inferior(4th) if it’s more appropriate depending on the situation and the person with whom I’m talking.  Sometimes I choose to flex to my 3rd and 4th because I think the person in front of me could hear my message clearer if I communicated in their native type language (their 1st and 2nd) rather than my own 1st and 2nd.  Good type development is the ability to use all four functions appropriately, but not with equal skill, depending on the situation and the type of the person in front of you. The process of using flexing type was best described by Isabel Myers herself – “Once a man has full control of his first and second functions . . . he knows not only their strengths but also their deficits, not only how to use them but also when not to use them because the opposite function or attitude is more appropriate. Then he can, in some measure, control the use of these . . ., crossing over at need from that which is natural to that which is...

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One more word about “guessing” type – Part 1

Jul 4, 2012 in Eye on Edu | 0 comments

Written by Catherine Rains  Talking about “guessing” type can be controversial in the type community because it can imply that we are deciding for someone else what they have a preference for, almost like a party game.  My intention in “guessing” type is very different. It is a tool to help me be more effective working with ALL types of people, without them ever having to take the assessment.  If I can observe patterns of behavior (often the function that they are extroverting), then I can create a hypothesis about what their type could be and decide whether I can be more effective by flexing my preferences to what I think theirs could be.  Guessing is not about deciding for someone else what their type is, but rather it’s a tool to help me use type to be more effective in my everyday interactions with people.     Whether a person is showing me their best fit type or not, my “guess” still gives me a leg up when working with someone new as it gives me a basis from which to begin our communication process. Do they want to get right to business and stay on task, or is building a personal connection more important before we talk business.  If the communication appears to be strained after I guess and begin to flex (assuming we have different preferences), or if my message isn’t being heard/received, then I can flex to the opposite preference to see if that works better.    Next week I will discuss appropriate situations of when to flex...

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"What is your MBTI type?" Poll Results from NACE

Jun 27, 2012 in Eye on Edu | 0 comments

Catherine Rains and I attended NACE (in Las Vegas) a couple of weeks ago. We had an amazing time and loved connecting with our customers as well as meeting new faces! While there, we set up a 40″ monitor and displayed a live poll. We asked willing attendees to text in their MBTI type and here are the results (click on the image to get the full...

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Behavioral Cues for Perceiving

May 26, 2012 in Eye on Edu | 0 comments

Written by Catherine Rains Alas, we live in a world the culturally prefers Judging. So what happens to the 50% of us who prefer Perceiving? We learn Judging skills to be successful in a world that values Judging type behaviors. This certainly was my case. As I have mentioned in previous blog entries, my father (who prefers INFJ) trained me almost from birth to exhibit Judging behaviors, and I’m very grateful that he did. As a result, most people pick me up as someone who prefers Judging, which has helped me live successfully in a Judging world while also honoring my clear preference for Perceiving. And I am far from unusual – I have met MANY people who prefer Perceiving, while exhibiting Judging behaviors professionally, making it a challenge to figure out their true preference. This also means that it could be difficult to guess their dominant function. However, if you look real close, and are patient, you can still find the true preference lurking in the background – it just might not be obvious at first glance. Here are some cues that I look for. They…. Usually won’t choose their major until the absolute deadline for doing so – end of sophomore year or when an authority figure says they must Could add a minor, a double major, or choose one major with LOTS of career options (i.e. Communication, History, Psychology) Might dress in a more casual, comfortable or artistic style, even in professional garb Sometimes ask things like “when do you really need that by” or “is that the real due date” as they will be energized to get things completed close to the ultimate deadline Often think no decision is final and are willing to change their mind when new information surfaces, like when they discover a new major that is more interesting than the one they already choose and have earned 60 credits toward Sometimes look at the 4-year plan from the Career Center as a list of suggested activities and will jump into the list wherever it looks interesting Might drop in to meet with you without an appointment Often want to keep ALL options open until the last minute, including what they are going to do this afternoon What am I missing? What other cues do you use to pick up whether someone has a preference for...

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Behavioral Cues for Judging

May 18, 2012 in Eye on Edu | 0 comments

Written by Catherine Rains Finally, we get to my favorite set of cues. The outer letters, the attitudes, show how we express our middle letters, and can thus be sometimes more obvious in terms of behavior cues. Remember too that the J and P were added by Myers and Briggs to indicate what a person shows to the world, or what they extrovert. So again, this attitude is often something that we can see, more so than the middle letters. This is ALWAYS assuming that someone is actually showing us their true preference for J or P. I am a case in point with this one as my behavior and appearance look J, but I have a preference for P. But I’ll share this next week when we get to behavior cues for Perceiving. Meanwhile, let’s look at common cues for the Judging preference. Here are some things that I look for. They…. Usually chose a major before they get to college, or by the first semester of their Freshmen year (this is a question I sometimes weave into a conversation!) Might show up 15 minutes prior to an appointment or engagement Often will get assignments done days before the deadline Could have a neat, crisp appearance with clothes pressed, hair well groomed, more conservative and angular in style Often have a very organized back pack, purse and/or daytimer Might plan out their weekends and vacations with a schedule, and don’t want to move forward without a plan Could appear closed to new information once a decision has been made Might decide quickly to get a decision checked off their list Sometimes love the 4-year plan the career center provides, and follows the plan year by year What else gives you the impression that someone has a preference for Judging? Please share what you have...

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