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MBTI Step II Facets: Traditional or Original and the Holiday Season

Nov 14, 2017 in MBTI Talk | 0 comments

The holidays are just around the corner. The music, decorations, food, smiles on people’s faces, and gifts (giving and receiving!), all make this season special. I love this time of year. Of course how people prefer to celebrate this season can differ quite a bit, and one way it differs depends on where they find themselves on the Traditional-Original MBTI® Step II™ facet. This facet is about the approach to traditions in the social context. People who have the preference for traditional tend the value that you follow a rule/regulation the way it’s meant to be followed. People on the original side like to think of new, novel ways to do things. And that means sometimes we look a bit different, but sometimes we like that about ourselves—the unique approach. Traditional people like to honor the holidays by keeping things like they have always known them. If you are a traditional person and you have tamales every Christmas or livivot for Hanukkah or mrouzia for Eid al-Adha, then your holiday just would not be the same if for some reason that food is not there on the special day. Then along comes the Original person (that’s me!). While I may like any or all of the foods above, the idea of introducing some new food or some new way to celebrate the holiday really appeals to me. A few years ago, I took a road trip with my partner to visit friends in Sedona. I wasn’t sure what we were going to eat, but I knew it was unlikely to be my mom’s incredible tamales. But to me, that was okay because I got to experience something new and interesting instead....

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MBTI Step II Facets: New Experiences for the Experiential or the Theoretical

Nov 7, 2017 in MBTI Talk | 0 comments

Second to last for the Sensing-Intuition preference pair facets are Experiential and Theoretical. These facets “emphasize the process by which we derive knowledge or meaning from our perceptions.” (MBTI Step II Manual, page 24. As a reminder, the order of these Sensing-Intuition facets goes Concrete—Abstract, Realistic—Imaginative, Practical—Conceptual, Experiential—Theoretical, and Traditional—Original. Whenever I travel, I usually like to experience something new and different…something I won’t find in most other places. I was in Singapore last year and I invited a small group to join me for a meal away from the hotel. Before arriving, I heard about a restaurant that offered prescribed herbal remedies with your meal to cure ailments or improve your health. It sounded like an interesting idea, but it took some work to convince Jennifer (not her real name). Her Experiential side wanted to know more about the restaurant before she would agree to go. She asked questions like, “Do you know anyone who has been there?” and “Are there reviews we can read so we know what to order and what not to order and whether we should go there in the first place?” When I wasn’t able to provide her such evidence, she decided she would rather stay at the hotel for dinner. Jennifer had eaten at the hotel restaurant several times on this trip as well as several times on previous trips. But after some prodding from me and the other invitees, she eventually (though reluctantly) agreed to give this “adventure” a try. All the way over to the restaurant, Jennifer made sure I was aware that if she did not like her meal, I was going to get an earful. I could tell she was only half joking though. Fortunately for all involved, the restaurant was a hit! If you are ever in Singapore, I suggest that you check out Imperial Herbal...

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MBTI Step II Facets: Practical–Conceptual & the Importance of Ideas

Oct 24, 2017 in MBTI Talk | 0 comments

While delivering a training program recently, I was getting excited about the “miracle” of the theory behind personality type. I felt like I was in my wheelhouse expounding on the power of type and the implications of these ideas. As explained in the MBTI® Step II™ Manual, “[Conceptual people (like me)] are not content…just to make inferences. Inferences give birth to ideas, and ideas are what excite them” (p. 30). I was brought back to reality when a participant raised her hand with a slightly frustrated look on her face and simply said, “Why?”   I had to smile, because it hit me over the head how easily I can take an idea and run with it. My Conceptual style is probably the reason I feel bogged down when I have to make an idea real and practical in the here and now.   Practical people, on the other hand, need to know how the idea will be realized. While they can be creative, their creativity tends to be derived from what they already know. That knowledge gives them a sense of certainty they can then use to understand an idea—thus, the question “Why?” The participant in my program probably also wanted to ask “Who?” “What?” “When?” and “How?”   Want more? Here’s a great article on the three types of creativity that exist – and their categories may surprise you. You also might find it interesting because this article interviews people of different creative manners – see if you can determine which might lean towards conceptual and which might lean towards...

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Navigating the Labyrinth of Stress: Interpersonal Needs and Personality Preferences

Oct 10, 2017 in CPP Connect | 0 comments

This article was originally written for Training Magazine and appeared on their website October 4th, 2017. To read the article on the original website, click here.  In managing stress, the big first step is recognizing how you tend to act under stress. Once you recognize what it looks like for you—and consequently for those you work with—you’re empowered to manage it. Stress isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but when it’s sustained, it can be debilitating. It affects our ability to regulate our emotions, and our metabolism and overall health. Stress can even cause our brains to shrink—a problem I’m confident no one needs. With 2017 seeing tremendous change already—and there’s surely more to come—stress management has to be a top priority for individuals and organizations alike. One effective way to deal with stress combines looking at our behavior through two models. First, our interpersonal needs (as described by the Fundamental Interpersonal Relations Orientation or FIRO model) often lie at the root of what tends to get us stressed. Second, our personality type (as described by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator instrument or MBTI) affects how we react to stress. By understanding what gets us stressed, and how we react to it, we can more readily pull ourselves, as well as teammates and co-workers, out of counter-productive stress. When Our Interpersonal Needs Aren’t Met, We Get Stressed According to the FIRO model, our behavior is driven by individually varying levels of interpersonal needs in three areas: Inclusion Control Affection We experience different degrees of need along these three areas in both “expressed” and “wanted” ways. For example, if you have a high expressed need for inclusion, you may want to make sure everyone and anyone is invited to anything and everything. If you have a low “wanted” need for inclusion, you might not care whether or not you’re invited to that meeting or party. When our needs are met, we engage and contribute. When our needs aren’t met, we withdraw, sometimes we even sabotage (outwardly or passive aggressively), or try to get our needs met in negative ways—through substance abuse or other destructive behaviors. Consider, for example, that you have got two people with high “expressed” and low “wanted” needs for control on the same team—you can imagine how unpleasant things could get as both of these individuals try to get their needs met. Suffice it to say, there are a limitless number of things at work that can stand in the way of getting our...

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MBTI Step II Facets: Realistic–Imaginative

Oct 10, 2017 in MBTI Talk | 0 comments

A colleague came into my office one day and asked me, “Why would someone send another person flowers?” I was a bit surprised by the question. She continued, “They seem like such a waste. I mean, they are really expensive and they are going to die.” I thought about it for a minute, not sure at first how to respond. I love to send and receive flowers, so I tried to explain that the cost and short life span of such a gift are not the point. Clearly not getting my message across very well, I decided to switch gears and asked my colleague, “What is the best present you have ever received?” She thought about it for a minute, then replied, “A coffee maker. I can use it over and over again.” Then, grinning, “It won’t die.” Realistic people usually prefer getting useful things. Cost, utility, life span are all considerations they take into account when making up their wish lists. But as someone who reports Imaginative, I tend not to consider usefulness and cost first. When it comes to gifts for me, the more unique and whimsical, the better. In terms of how people view each other, people who report realistic may see Imaginative people as lacking common sense, ignoring reality and/or wasting time. Yet these people also tend to admire Imaginative people’s ability to dream up something that may be useful. On the other hand, people who report Imaginative may see Realistic people as materialistic or unimaginative, yet admire their grasp on realities of a situation (including the bottom line). As an exercise, think about leaders you’ve seen in the past. When they’re learning about new competition, or taking in information to determine the company’s direction, how would a Realistic or Imaginative facet play a difference in what information they decide to pay attention to and what information they ignore? (If you want to read this series from the beginning, start...

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